Life Lessons

Fear Vs. Your Heart’s True Desires

Fear is a paralyzer. It’s full of smoke and mirrors designed to give you a “real” authentic experience of what could happen if you move in the direction your heart truly desires. Fear lies to you to keep you stagnant and to box you into a corner.

Fear knows your true capabilities more than you. Fear is scared of you, so much so it makes all attempts for you to abort your dreams and ignore your intuition. It goes above and beyond to shout louder than the still small voice leading you down your intended path. Fear attempts to not only take you off course but to confuse you so much that you turn in circles for years doubtless of which way to go.

You still know which way to go, you just have to silence fear by following your heart. Move even if you are trembling every step of the way.

Fear causes you to give advice and not apply it yourself. Fear uses procrastination to keep you stagnant. Fear tells you why something will not work. Fear knows your greatness and how intricately you were created but tells you of all your human frailties versus your flawless design. Even the flaws were designed flawlessly. Fear causes you to waste time on the what ifs. Fear gets you so consumed with everything that could go wrong that you become so scared you box yourself in.

Fear reminds you of all your perceived past failures to make you think you are perpetually a failure. Fear makes you think your common. Like your experience should be/will be like everyone else’s who tried what your thinking about or who just went against the grain.

Even when you do something for god you are not absent of fear. It’s even stronger because you are no longer doing things just for you but for countless people you may never meet, but who can benefit from your fearlessness.

Times Up, Know When to Move On

One of my best lessons in happiness so far has been to learn to let go of things when the season has past. Not doing so will only cause more pain and suffering. Sometimes negative occurrences happen in our lives when we are unwilling to listen to our inner self and let go.

Let’s be honest, letting go is scary. Bottom line. If you let go of something that is mediocre at best, you don’t know for certain that something better will come along. My older sister told me years ago to “never be afraid to move forward.” Being scared does not excuse what needs to be done. Being scared and not addressing a situation does not mean it goes away. Mediocre is comfortable and familiar, but in some cases settling for mediocrity only delays inevitable pain. Complacency truly is the enemy of greatness.

Anything that is alive must grow. So grow. Life is all about growing and evolving.

Holding on does not automatically improve a situation. I’ve been in situations when my fear of letting go just further drained me and caused a bad situation to drag on way to long.

It’s time to let go when that “thing” doesn’t fit anymore. Have you tried to wear your prom dress lately? Unless you graduated recently, chances are it doesn’t fit. At the very least your style has evolved. Can you imagine forcing yourself to wear that sameness today?

So today, I encourage you to at the very least take the first step. Come to a place of peace that the ”thing” you are holding tightly to, but you know is not good for you any more is done. You’ve gotten all the good from it that you possibly can. It served its purpose. And that’s OK. Be open to releasing the thing because life has something better.

Believe that there is a better “thing” that will make you happier and more at peace.

While you are letting go and looking forward to the future, take a moment and reflect on all the good you got from whatever that thing is for you and be grateful for all the pleasure. All the bad. All the good. All the frustration. What did you learn in those times about yourself? Take those lessons with you on the next steps of your journey. Forward. Upward Movement.